Let’s Live Forever!

I have a magic trick that always works for me in relationship problems.

This is a trick I mainly use in my relationship with my partner Frank. It applies to any kind of relationship, and I use it on other ones too, but for me this trick has come into focus from using it in our life-partner-type relationship. It’s something I’ve used when I have been feeling exasperated, sad or plain desperate about either a specific event or some ongoing thing I’m not happy about.

My experience from using this trick has been to see transformation of the problem… into a non-event or even into a miraculous opposite—some of the developments have amazed me.

One thing though… I have always felt a strong sense of purpose in being with Frank, and we are compatible in many ways (he’s a fantastic person and we love each other to bits). In an intimate relationship, the trick would only work to bring closeness if the basic set-up of the relationship was good anyway. It would at least bring clarity if it wasn’t.

My trick is…

When the person does something, or is something, that I don’t like, I ask myself “why have I attracted that? Why have I got a partner who does X and Y, or doesn’t do Z? What is it about me, that I have drawn this situation to myself? What is it in me that this is reflecting? Can I change, so that the situation changes?”

I don’t really need to know the answers, though these may come at some point and be helpful. I think it’s actually the action of admitting to myself that I have drawn this situation to myself that changes things around.

Doing this trick takes being brutally honest with oneself, which takes quite a bit of courage. It’s so much easier to say the person is being SELFISH, because they DON’T DO THE DISHES. Or that MEN/WOMEN are ALWAYS like this!

So how does it work out?
Let’s say my partner keeps leaving muddy footprints in the house and doesn’t clean them up (I’m choosing something here that Frank would NEVER do!) I might feel unsupported, because I am left to clean them up.

I could “rise above it” and clean them up and say nothing or not much, which would probably lead to some suppressed hostility that might come out later in an argument.

Or I could ask myself “why do I have a partner who doesn’t support me? Am I not supporting myself somehow, and is his behaviour reflecting this? If that’s the case, is there some way I could start supporting myself better? How can I change so I no longer attract this?”

As I already mentioned, I may not get a terribly clear answer… I’ve been supporting myself for years, haven’t I? But something shifts around.

If I do take action, it might be to do something (support myself by asking him directly to clean up the footprints) or to think something (support myself by thinking I deserve to be supported). This leaves me more expanded and healthier… as a by-product of keeping the relationship alive.

All of the above seems to lead to a resolution of the problem, in some way. I’ve found particular issues in our relationship have been totally transformed from doing this—it could be anything from the footprints-caster suddenly washing the floors every day, to me simply not noticing the muddy footprints any more.

Love is a healer
I suspect that it’s being in a very meaningful relationship that can spur us on to really embrace this technique, because we sense that it’s in our best interest to keep the relationship going, and will try ANYTHING to fix things if there’s something wrong. While trying to keep our relationship alive, we end up healing ourselves, which is an example of how love brings about healing, I think.

(And Frank… I just want to say I really appreciate your love, your spirit and your cleanliness around the house!)

This is a photo of Frank and me at pizza night a couple of weeks ago.

If any singles reading this post find it annoyingly couple-centric, I’d know where you are coming from—Frank and I only got together when I was 49-and-a-bit, and I was always single before that. This technique can be used with relatives, friends and shop-keepers, too.

What do you think? Has anyone else been doing this? What other relationship magic tricks do you use?

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Tags: feelings, love, relationships

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I’d like to suggest that for some people “the world” is getting better and better, and for others it is getting worse and worse. And that we get to choose which group we are in.

I’d imagine that anyone dropping by here would be firmly in the “getting better” camp, as far as their own personal life goes, anyway, but I thought I’d still like to write about this.

Choosing between love and fear
In The Starseed Transmissions (1982), by Ken Carey, it says there is a “new vibrational pattern descending upon your planet” and people’s experiences are becoming more polarized. This is a channelled book, authored by an angel. Our angel puts it this way:

You are being offered an opportunity to enter a new reality. It is already here for those with eyes to see. Soon it will be the only reality to be seen. Those who tune into the new frequencies will find life growing more wondrous every day. Those who tune into fear will find things falling apart. The worlds of consciousness will begin to form ever more distinctly: the world of Love and Life, and the world of fear and death. There will continue to be some overlap of these worlds for several years to come, some going back and forth for certain individuals, but as the century draws to a close, the polarization will continue to intensify.

There will be better times for some and worse times for others, depending on their orientation and involvement. Fortunately, the natural tendency of your species is to gravitate toward Love and Life. For the vast majority, the times ahead will be better than they expect.

But it’s all going downhill
Many people comment on how the world is getting worse. It’s certainly not hard to find evidence to support this perspective—there’s a plethora of issues to choose from. We can always find evidence to support our outlook.

When we are upset by world issues that are basically outside our own experience, we can observe ourselves and see things that may need healing. For example, if we are especially upset by child poverty, is there something in our own background that leads us to relate to this? If we are especially upset by the government not listening to us, are we still upset our parents didn’t listen to us?

I’m not suggesting we should all be happy about child poverty or that governments don’t listen. I’m saying we can get clues about ourselves from the emotional charges we get from thinking about particular issues. Maybe we can even heal the world “out there” by acknowledging and working with our own wounds in these areas. At the very least a healthier person is going to be more effective should they take up working directly on fixing any of these world problems.

What is real?
I know my life is becoming “more wondrous every day”—things are working out amazingly well. (It hasn’t always been like that… it has taken quite a while.)

Should I be worried about the problems of the world out there? I think it’s a matter of focus. I’m actually a bit of a news junkie, I used to teach kids about recycling and other kinds of environmental stuff, and I recently wrote a book about climate change (I was just dealing with an email request from my editor last night). I get upset by things in the news. But I don’t see the world as going downhill… I see people’s experiences polarizing and becoming more extreme perhaps, but I find myself focusing on ways in which the world is getting better.

I don’t think I am being callous—I know my intuition will lead me in the path of being the most service to other people, and I think we can best help other people raise their energy by raising our own. Funnily enough (if you read my last post), Marelisa has recently written something much like this last bit too—it’s right here.

What to you think? How do you see the world? If you, my wondrous reader, would like to leave a comment, that would be great!

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Tags: feelings

Recently Marelisa from Abundance Blog at Marelisa-Online wrote a great article about gratitude over at The Change Blog.

This gave me the idea of looking up The Door of Everything by Ruby Nelson, because I remembered it had something about gratitude. The Door of Everything is a channelled book, authored by “the guiding voice of Father consciousness at the centre of your soul”.

The chapter The Ascension Attitudes explains that love, praise and gratitude are the “keys to the kingdom of true Being”. It says these three attitudes are in fact inseparable, and suggests we could concentrate on all three or just one if we find it more natural. I found this about gratitude:

The vibration of gratitude is such a mighty creative force that it alone, if indulged continuously, could uplift you free of the sub-creation more rapidly than you realize.

I thought I’d try focusing on feeling grateful as much as possible—firstly for all the usual suspects like the house, Frank and my computer. Then I added in things like the ground I was walking on, the air I was breathing and the blue sky. All of this definitely inspired a warm glow, and I felt I was on target for being seriously uplifted.

I went on reading the book, and while I was reading the chapter The Mighty Rock I had one of those ah-hah moments you have when something sinks into some different notch in your brain from before… even though I had read this book many times over the years, and what I was reading was something I already knew.

The ah-hah moment came from reading about how to perform miracles… which I thought could come in quite handy. I was reading:

You always demonstrate on the level your consciousness abides. It is not necessary, as a result, for you to learn the secret of how to demonstrate, how to bring the invisible into form, because you have been doing this all your life. The power of mind cannot do otherwise than demonstrate in accordance with the way in which it is used.

Therefore you do not need to exercise faith in your ability to perform miracles, for if you will only exercise enough faith to lift your consciousness to a higher level, the miracles will take care of themselves. They will happen not as a result of human thinking, but as a spontaneous result of Christlike being. You could not stop the miracles any easier than you could stop your life.

So there you have it: we can raise our level of consciousness with love, praise and gratitude, and miracles will happen automatically! This is a different approach to other techniques of manifestation such as creative visualization and affirmations, though these work in basically the same way, I’d imagine.

A couple of nights later my accelerated uplifting all went seriously pear-shaped when a project Frank and I have going on out in the world looked like it would possibly fall over, and we also had some depressing news about a friend. The next day, as we drove to my mother’s place two hours away to stay the night at her place, I was feeling flat, depressed and glow-less. I tried to feel grateful for something, but it didn’t work. I decided it was best to let it be… forcing feelings does not achieve anything.

That night Frank got a call on his mobile that let us know our project was safe. The way it happened was quite astonishing and dare I say miraculous. And as we arrived home the next day he got another call letting us know the friend would be okay.

Modern miracles
We have been manifesting all along, as our level of consciousness allows. Some of the ordinary things we do now would seem like miracles to some people—even putting a meal on the table as easily as many of us do would seem like a miracle to quite a lot of people from both today’s world and the past.

So if we want bigger and better miracles, we need only raise our vibration (perhaps with love, praise and gratitude) and they’ll happen. I’m looking forward to testing this out further, after a promising start!

What do you think? Have you had any developments in your life that seemed miraculous, and that you think came about because you “raised your consciousness”? In my own life, being with Frank seems like a miracle, because we only got together six years ago when I was 49, and I’d never had a partner before that.

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Well… I haven’t really, exactly. In that I can’t prove it. I’m 55 at the moment and so have not proved one can live forever. But then it’s something that can’t be proven anyway—a person could live to be 300 years old and die the next day.

But I thought I’d tell the story of how I came across the idea of physical immortality.

In the mid-80s I lived in a household of musicians, and two regular visitors were Dave and Tony. Dave played bass and trombone, and Tony played saxophone. Both of them had their head completely shaved—the idea being that this allowed the cosmic rays to penetrate their scalp more easily, making them immortal.

Now Dave was quite a character. He had previously lived in our house and seemed to think he still did—he stored his bee pollen in our fridge for some reason (I don’t think he had a fridge) and he ate all our fruit after we had been to the market. He had a reputation for covering our kitchen with carrot pulp from juicing carrots, and having orange palms from drinking too much of the makings. Setting up our house for a 4 a.m. mini-golf game didn’t seem out of the ordinary. I don’t remember much about Tony—only that he had a nice girlfriend. The point of all this is that the shaved heads, and the reason for them, was just one more entertaining weirdo occurrence in our house.

Dave and Tony were quite adamant about their immortality quest, and I interpreted the thinking to mean that we could lead a better life if we spent it believing we were not going to die—but actually not dying didn’t enter the equation. I didn’t see any point in it, and gave it little thought.

At around that time, another friend of the household—Dave’s ex-girlfriend Fiona, a piano player—was telling us about a prosperity workshop she had been to. I pricked up my ears, because I had plenty of money at the time and the musicians all around me had very little, but they seemed to be so much more alive and interesting than I was, and were making plans for their money while I had no idea of what to do with mine.

New discoveries
Fiona suggested a book I could read: Money is My Friend by Phil Laut. I liked it and ended up buying another book by Phil Laut—this time Rebirthing: The Science of Enjoying All of Your Life, by him and Jim Leonard.

The book was mainly about rebirthing which I was not especially interested in, but I still remember sitting there on the burgundy-striped couch in that edwardian musicians’ house reading ‘Part 5: Immortalist Philosophy’. The idea really WAS about not dying. It was saying death was not natural and we could keep our bodies youthful and avoid disasters by healing ourselves. It all rang very true for me.

I remember, ironically, feeling very heavy and depressed while reading this section of the book. I later learned this was because I was suddenly feeling much safer in the world than I had ever felt before, and was therefore allowing myself to experience feelings I had been keeping well-and-truly suppressed up till then.

Anyway, I started doing workshops run by the community behind these books, and so embarked on a period of focused healing that lasted for several years (which did NOT involve shaving my head!) I never ever went back to seeing myself as mortal—from the moment I really understood these ideas, I was “sold”. Funnily, Dave and Tony grew their hair back and forgot about physical immortality, and went on to some other in-thing.

Part of life
Physical immortality has been more like a context I live my life in than an “important belief.” Life goes on… it seems to me to be the natural way to live. I know that for me life is far more joyful and expanded coming from this perspective.

Since I really understood these concepts, I’ve never gone back to the old way of thinking… not even for a few moments. Learning about it was like remembering something I already knew, which is a common feeling amongst the physical immortality crowd (who apparently don’t have blogs). I’ve occasionally forced myself to consider that maybe I was batty, but it went nowhere.

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Tags: personal, philosophy

Many people say old-age and death are natural… that these are the birth-death cycle of nature in action.

Perhaps this outlook comes from people thinking there are no alternatives to death.

People with a positive outlook on life will be inclined to think the set-up they see in the world around them must somehow be “right”, so it’s natural they will have a philosophy that death is natural and a “part of life”. I certainly thought this myself before I came across the idea of physical immortality.

Once people believe death is natural, they will look for all sorts of things that could be good about it. Why wouldn’t they! Like death means going to be with God, experiencing peace and love, experiencing great mystery, going to a “better place” and experiencing more than “just this life”. And it’s wrong to be “too wrapped up in this material world” anyway.

There are whole established spiritual traditions that teach it’s a worthy thing to feel good about our bodies dying, allowing us to go to a “better place” (or whatever).

Alternatives
The information has been around for some time now that the birth-death cycle is not natural—death is something mankind has chosen up to now and can un-choose. And that the things people think dying will achieve are really most easily achieved in life.

The thing is, we are already “with God” now, in our bodies. Thinking we aren’t comes from feeling separate from the creative source and other people, as most of us have felt at some time (or quite often). This is something we can heal, and I’d suggest, from what I’ve read, we can heal this pattern faster and better when we are alive than when we are dead (between lives).

I’d also suggest to anyone who thinks we go to be with God when we die, that God is the life force flowing through us (among other things), and when we die we are actually trying to shut out God.

Could longing for “a better place” be a case of “the grass is greener on the other side of the fence”, combined with a feeling of powerlessness that learning about the Law of Attraction could cure? And why exactly is “this material world”—God’s creation—so bad?

Our purpose
Maybe it is our purpose to bring our spirit fully into matter. And in the process become fully self-realized physical human beings. Perhaps we humans are God’s way of expressing in the physical realm, and we cannot do what we are meant to do until we have mastered this physical existance, by which I mean getting our lives really working… love, health, happiness, prosperity, relationships, creativity… and overcoming death.

Who knows what we might get up to after that! We may have shiny, light-filled bodies, we may be able to travel faster than the speed of light. But no doubt our consciousness will be so expanded compared to how it is now it is hardly worth trying to guess what may be in store. Also, thinking about these things too much takes us out of present time, and it’s by following our intuitive impulses in the present moment that we make the steps towards becoming self-realized.

Our friends
Just a thought about the plants and animals…

I personally have no particular opinion about what is going on with their life-cycles—maybe they are reflecting our consciousness back to us… maybe they simply share our consciousness and will transform when we transform… maybe they have their own story.

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Tags: Christianity, thoughts

It’s not Friday the 13th today, but it was the other day.

Our plumbing got blocked and we had a crowd coming over on Saturday the 14th.

We rent our house, so should have been able to ask the estate agent to get it fixed, but we knew from experience that it wasn’t going to happen in time. So we called a plumber ourselves, and $332 later he announced forlornly that he could not fix it—the blockage was terminal and the pipe would need to be dug up and replaced.

By evening Frank and I were exhausted. We were standing there collapsed in each other’s arms, barely able to move. The plumber did get things flowing enough for us to feel our plans would not be threatened, but we had been doing all that cleaning you put off till the last minute, and combined with the stress of the plumbing dilemmas (and extra not-so-pleasant cleaning), we wanted to fall into bed early.

But we had to go out because Frank had a sound mixing gig he couldn’t get out of. And it was FANTASTIC!

There were three acts, and they were all boys still at school. Kids that age aren’t allowed in pubs without their parents, so the place was full of both teenagers and their parents. The quality of talent was amazing. First up was a singer-songwriter, followed by two bands.

Saturday the 14th
Our party went off great, and the plumbing held out (and is still OK). It was based around a fire in the backyard—we put carpet on the grass and chairs out. We love having a fire in June when it is freezing cold. At this time of year the weather is usually cold and clear—the rain doesn’t really set in till July. We have a great fire dish and a friend supplies us with hardwood that doesn’t smoke. The fire is really hot, and no-one seems to want to go inside. Here’s a photo:

About half the people there were musicians. There were some guitars and other instruments seeing some action around the fire, and the piano inside got a workout. It was different, because at our other fires we just had iTunes playing most of the time. This time they kept wanting it turned off so they could play!

One really exciting thing for us was getting hold of a CD Frank recently recorded. It’s the second CD he has done where the artist went off and got it duplicated to sell it. The artist’s name is Sanna Lund, and she dropped into the party for a while to give us a copy. She is a traveller from Sweden who came into our lives via the open mic night Frank and I run on Tuesdays. She is a wonderful singer-songwriter with a fantastic voice.

As I write this she has not had a chance to upload the new songs to her MySpace—she has just left yesterday in a combi van for the warmer climes of northern Australia, as Swedish travellers are inclined to do at this time of year. When she does upload them, I’ll put one of them on the music player on our website. Here’s a photo of the CD being proudly held by Frank:

Sunday the 15th
The last people left at about 6.30 am—Mike was too sloshed to ride his bicycle so he fell into our spare bed. I guess we must have put the carpet and chairs away and cleaned up the mess, because it’s all gone now—I don’t really remember.

I do remember staggering down the street for pizza like we always do on Sunday nights.

Monday the 16th
Well it’s my birthday today! Fifty-five years old! Oh how we Geminis like to chat about our birthdays. Frank and I are going down the street to the Indian restaurant for tea—at the moment I’m just enjoying writing this and not doing much else. I just want to say thanks to my new blogosphere friends—when I began this blogging adventure 3 months ago I didn’t anticipate the feeling of community that has come with it.

I seemed to have strayed off-topic. I promise I will be back to ernestly discussing physical immortality next post—I know you are hanging out for it. Oh to have a niche with more than one person in it. (And I must say I REALLY appreciate everyone who has taken the time to leave comments.)

Cheers - Robin

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Tags: personal

Money goes around and around and around and around and around. It does. Therefore there is an infinite amount of money in the world.

So if we want some/lots of it, we have to be able to let it circulate in our direction.

I went to a prosperity workshop once where we did the following exercise: we were asked to take a sum of money out of our wallets that we were comfortable with losing, then all stand up and walk around the room, and give the money away. Then sit down when we were ready to. There were about 100 of us.

I took out 20 bucks, stood up, walked around and gave the money to someone called Victoria, wandered around a bit more then sat down empty-handed.

Needless to say, some people had wandered around the room collecting lots of money (probably with a big smile on their face), and many, like me, had simply given their money away. It was great for getting insights into how we can be open to attracting money, or we can put the vibe out somehow that we are not up for receiving it.

At another prosperity workshop (it was the 80s), we were asked to close our eyes and imagine a wealthy person. I imagined an unpleasant portly man wearing a pin-striped suit with a waist-coat and fob-watch, carrying an umbrella! If that was how I “saw” a wealthy person, was it surprising that I wasn’t allowing myself to become one? I started choosing a new vision of what wealth could look like.

Guilt-free money
Many people have the idea, deep down, that it is somehow bad to have lots of money. They think there is a limited amount of money in the world, so if one person has more it means someone else will have less.

They will point to a famous rich person in their country, and say it is not fair this person has so much when other people have so little. They think the rich person is taking money away from other people. Then, because they are ethical people, they don’t allow themselves to have very much money because that wouldn’t be fair, either.

The thing is, there ISN’T a limited amount of money. It circulates. That famous rich person puts the money into schemes of various sorts, or spends it—in both cases the money is moving on to other people. They are doing it in a way that they can get it back when they need it. The money they spend on luxury goods goes towards someone’s groceries eventually. The only time having money stops other people from having it is when the cash itself is hoarded under the bed or somewhere—this takes the money out of circulation.

When we put money in a financial institution we are passing it on for other people to use, with a promise we can get it back when we want. When we buy things, the money goes to someone. When we “have” money we are not taking it away from other people. In fact, the best way to teach other people they can open themselves to the flow of money is by example. It is our DUTY to have as much money as we need!

If we were to stand with a friend and pass a dollar coin back and forth, we could make $100 each fairly quickly. We would also have spent that money, but we can see from this that there is no limit to the amount of money available to us or anyone else.

We can allow money to flow through us—there’s no reason why it shouldn’t.

Limited money
In my twenties and thirties I had a good income and money to spare, but I felt uneasy about it. Then I went through several years of really struggling for money. I used to tell myself it was happening for a reason—I wished I could get in touch with the reason and learn what I needed to know and move on! I felt eventually it was something to do with discovering what I really valued, and getting to know myself better. Anyway, the reason must have passed, because money came along and Frank and I are comfortable and we pretty well do what we please.

I’d suggest that periods of limited money can be useful and are not the end of the world—but unless it really suits a person’s life purpose to handle little or no money, it’s not meant to always be like that.

Manifestation
One day we may be able to do away with money altogether, and simply manifest what we need out of thin air. Books like ‘Autobiography of a Yogi’ and the ‘Masters of the Far East’ series are full of stories of people making the things they need appear before them. According to ‘The Starseed Transmissions’, we are like electrical appliances that have not been turned on yet—we have no idea yet of what our true creative abilities are.

However we do it, it’s our birthright to attract the things we need to express ourselves and fullfill our life purpose.

What do you think? I’d love to hear about any insights you may have had in the past about why you stopped money coming to you.

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Tags: money, thoughts